I know that I now examine things I "should" do or those "duty" issues very carefully, especially if it's all about appearances. Many times I find they're just not worth the effort.
I have many people who are in my life because I want them to be and they want to be, we are equally invested in the R. I no longer put a lot of effort into people, even relatives, who have time for me only when I put in all the work, unless I really want to.
And of course, everyone has their own idea of what a good family R is.
Good thought exercise.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss