Having a bit of a low day. Not sure why. Prob not focusing enough on the here and now. Trying to visualize that big red STOP sign with little success. Maybe it got run over....
Do have a query for one and all. I would like opinions on the following.
Scenario 1
Boss tells me she has to have surgery next week. She's upset/angry because corporate isn't giving her time off or a leave, but rather terminating her employment. (I commiserate, tell her how sorry I am to hear of both her medical and work troubles. That I will really miss her because she has been wonderful to work for. Agree corporate is being lousy to her.)She says I'm the only person she's told so far.
Scenario 2
Friend texts me to catch up. Tells of her parents' health issues and mentions that she "finally got the hysterectomy she's been wanting". I sympathize over parent's health issues and express best wishes for speedy recovery from hysterectomy.
H learns of the above convo's. Says "What is wrong with you that you miss these social cues? You didn't handle this right."
He says I should have:
Scenario 1
Asked my boss what sort of surgery she was having.
Scenario 2
Asked my friend how she paid for her surgery ie insurance? etc.
So what do you think? H says these people were dropping hints that they wanted to be asked about the details and that because I didn't ask, I come across as unfeeling/uncaring. I think if they wanted to tell me details, they would've. I am not "friends" with my boss (remember speech about staff knowing their place...) but I do like her and thought I expressed genuine concern for her well being.
My friend is of course my friend, lol. BUT I was brought up to believe that personal finances were taboo for discussion. What on earth business is it of mine how she pays her bills?
Hoping for responses!!
Thanks for taking the time to read
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
