I would really recommend to read Divorce Remedy as soon as possible. Order it from amazon if you have to. It really helps give you some perspective as to what happens in these situations. More importantly, if you're open to it, DR offers gloss and solutions the will benefit YOU, no matter what happens with your H.
DR has helped me with he choices that I've been making that have put me on the path to improving my own life.
Good luck with your sitch and I wish you the best for you and your family.
M33, W35 T: 8 years, M: 6 years S6, S3 9/2012 "I need space" 10/2012 "I want to separated", "ILYBINILWY" OM, EA likely PA 11/2012 "I don't see hope for our M" 12/2012 I begin GAL & 180s