Wendy has given you very good advice. I would like to add that MLC takes a very long time to get through. That said, you have to realize that you are way ahead of your H on your own journey. You're going through it, not trying to avoid it like your H is by distracting himself with his band-aids.
I don't think at this point that getting him alone in a bare apartment would do any good. He really has no clue to why he feels as he does. That won't come until he's ready to start facing his demons. He's still far too busy in Replay for that to happen.
Leave your H to God and focus on taking care of you. Your H will have to run to catch up with you. There is always hope as long as you want it. Just keep those expectations at zero. When your H starts to emerge, you'll know it.
