House for sale. So Sad. Family Breaking Up (pt 2)

[RegretfulLA]

My H does the victim thing and tries to make me feel guilty for my behavior. I haven't heard him take any responsibility. It sounds like you have, like you've done a lot of work to understand. I will say that playing the victim is NOT sexy to her and will not help you win her back.

What will help... well did you ever see Crazy Stupid Love, where Steve Carell's W has an A and he's lost and confused but trying to move on. He's kind of a nebishy nerdy dude... until he meets Ryan Gosling who sets him straight and turns him into a stud and then of course he's bedding a different woman every night.

Women want the stud of course. They do not a whiny whiner who is constantly telling them how much they screwed up and how bad they should feel for ruining everything (this is my H, it doesn't sound like you are doing this).

I bet if you puff out that chest a bit and start ignoring her, things will change.