Well had conversation with wife tonight without a blowout.
Things she said that stuck:
-I'm arrogant. It's your personality . Either She can live with it or she can't . I asked for examples and she had none. Just my personality.
-You don't go out with friends enough
-she says I don't help around the house enough but this statement is redic. She then seemed to retract that statement.
-I can be negative
-called me naracist
I just kept trying to validate and not use the word but. This is first conversation in months without esculation.
I can see some positive here. Things I can work on but it's tough because I don't agree with everything she says
She told me she feels isolated being at home with kids and that she feels I'm like another kid. I validated but I feel nothing I do can make her happy. I come home play with kids, do dishes, fold laundry , clean etc .
I played video game with son ONCE in 2 months and she brought that up. Again I validated but seems redic.
But the one thing that stands out is not going out with friends and doing gal.
This conversation with wife wasn't a setback. I asked her if we could continue to talk and communicate. We can try she said.
It is tough because she makes some valid points. But then some stuff out of her mouth garbage . I bit bullet and validated
