i used to place all his daily medications in his weekly pill holder. i'd sort them and make sure he didnt' run out. i'd put his one evening pill out for him and if he didn't remember it by after-dinner time, i'd bring it to him with a glass of water! boy, was i a little-boy maker!
Wow, SS, this really hit home for me. For a while, I was putting H's evening vitamins on his napkin at dinner. Why I started doing that? I don't know. I can only think it was because they are supposed to be taken with food and I was concerned he wasn't. He recently switched vitamins and I told him that I didn't know what to put out. He snapped that he could handle it himself. He never complained before when I was putting them out. But I never saw it as "mothering".
LA, I think you are going to have to go into somewhat of an "ignore" mode. I used to say to myself "Is it worth dying on the hill for?" And what I meant was basically what Wendylon was saying. If it didn't really affect me and it wasn't worth dying on the hill for (arguing), then I tried to ignore it and let it go. And I get the money tree. I'm still trying to find the one my H has hidden from me.
Lately my H has made some "I'm a big boy" comments. I guess he's put up with it for 17 years and has had enough. Maybe your H feels the same way. Mine said the other night that I think he is stupid, which is far from true. Some of that is insecurity because he has HS diploma vs my JD.
I am sensitive to your need to protect yourself and your boys. I really think you should talk to a lawyer and start to plan what you need to do. What if H digs in and doesn't leave? I hate that I am going to leave, but I have to get sane sometime soon.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together
