I've gotten to 12/30/12 and want to bang my head into a wall. Let's make a deal and start over, ok?
I don't think you're wrong about anything you're saying. Know why? They are your feelings. You are clearly distressed about the lying. I also see you are distressed about the lack of interaction (sounds a bit about the shallowness I was earlier referring to). The cleaning stuff made me laugh as I think I border on OCD. A wonderful result of my latest meltdown is I just don't care. LOL. Let's start over.