You might print off the last 5-10 of his text messages or emails to you, including the one where he said the child was like a knife in his gut and explain that his unbalanced words and behavior give you great doubt that he will be able to provide the atmosphere of love and security that you need in your delivery room. So he won't be welcome there.

It would be very generous of you to allow him to be one of the first people to come in and see the baby once he is born, if you want that.

This is between you and him so I wouldn't be too concerned with family giving him frosty stares. You don't think they would cause a scene in the hospital if he were there do you?

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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