My wife conceeded our marriage in October after what she says was 2 years of "stuff" that just chipped away at our relationship. I never thought that things were in that state & didn't really think she meant what she was saying to me until she just pulled away physically and emotionally. She is having an affair (emotional) and has been since October. SO basically 2 months now it's been the 2 of them doing things together after work (they do work at the same company). There have been lies etc. & I finally caught her with proof in early December. She did admit to her "friendship" but as it turned out (and I knew it) it was more than that. She is continuing to see him and there is nothing I can do about it. I won't force her to stop because we all know it won't stop. It's her decision to want to stop. I really just am confused about everything & need some guidence I guess. A part of me wants to get some dates down for starting a legal separation and getting separate residences. Living while seaprated kind of [censored] but we have 2 boys age 3.5 and 5.5 yrs. Can't even imagine not waking up with them in the morning or not having them 3-4 days a week.The other part of me gets it, she is done and I need to move on and start to heal myself and focus on me. From what I hear it takes about 6 months to get there and then another year before you really feel like yourself again. i just need to get to some kind of closure with this and get moving in the right direction. I feel she is draggin her feet because she is probably in this fantasy world and i am a safe backup. Well, I just don't see how we can resolve what we have been through, all the lies and deception it's crazy. just not possible to mend. Do I make the move and just tell her this is what we are going to do and when? I just need to be ready to make that deceision and know that it is the right thing to do. Thoughts??
