Oh boy, could I use a few hundred drinks right now. Hahahaha
No, it's never black and white, true. Sometimes the answer is truly that we do need a change from them that isn't coming. I'm not sure if that's your situation just yet, but I'd love to hear more. I'm more interested in where you are right now. CV, I'm sorry you're sad. You're a tough, tough lady. I think sometimes people miss the grief. I know they do with me.
Interesting. "When the poo hits the fan, he doesn't hesitate to lie." He's afraid of you? How important to him, do you think, is your opinion of him?
My mom loved my dad. My mother was in love with my stepfather. She eventually got out of both situations but not without a lot of pain. She was beaten horribly by my stepfather for many years. The issues there were a lot more blatant and far worse than my situation. And both of them were the more classical "dysfunctional" drunk. For the most part, my H is a happy drunk and actually easier to take when he's drunk. It's when he sobers up from the binges that he turns not so nice. Lately, that's changed a bit, but still different. My mom is an ENORMOUS resource for me. But I have to still be careful what I tell her because she can be overbearing... She means well and is full of love, but I'm her daughter and she will fight hard for me.
