Invested to me means she takes some responsibility for the R.
She seeks interaction, she makes a call, she wants to out herself out there.

Why do you think it's best for the kids?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss