caigy, I'm sorry that your h and his mother were acting out Nedw Years Eve, but none of us know what your h had told his mother. Blood is always thicker than water when it comes to drawing the line in the sand.
It appears that your h is very resentful and jealous of the time and relationship you have w/your children and he and his mother didn't want them calling you. Your son is a very smart cookie and knew just how to reach you because they were desparate to get out that h@ll hole.
As to who needs counseling? I don't think your son needs it at all. In fact, In think your h and his mother need to be committed to the nearest mental ward for observation and shock treatments. That is absolutely no way to treat family, much less young adults and children. Yes, your h is a grown man and he can do whatever he wants, but that doesn't mean emotionally abusing his children, nor does that give his mother free rein to abuse them emotionally either.
I'm glad your children arrived back home safely. I would definitely document this incident because you just never know when you will need to present this date/time/and behavior to your lawyer.
What to do about nutty grandma? Consider the source and it would be a cold day in h@ll before my children went to visit her again.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Funny thing about MIL, she was commited to a mental hospital years ago and received shock treatments she also lost cusody of her 4kids for 18 months at that time.
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
Is MIL trying to reclaim that lost time via your kids?
I agree that is crazy. And likely in your D settlement there should be provision to have access to the kids when away from you.
I know what that's like, C
Be well,
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
AJ she has never been a good grandma, I just think she's mental and trying to turn my kids against me...which won't work as they feel safe with me not with him. I'm not shocked by what she did just really confused by the level of crazy we have to deal with.
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
i completely agree mil,s can go nuts through their kids mlc. my mil told me my son is projecting his anger onto his mother even though he caught her cheating. kookoo bird
Well its official I'm surrounded by Jerry Springer wannabes.
This morning the OW mom who also usefd tô be my friend came to my door asking if she could talk to me, so I let her in....She startted to cry saying how sorry she was that she didn't believe me when I told h er that her D was with my husband.
She said her GD spent the night on frîdày and shè started talking about my H hôw hè îs gonna be her new daddy and he buys her candy and watches movies wîth her etc....
OW 's mom àlso said thàt OW is àlso talking to a few other men one of which is married wîth a child!!!
Is it just me or is karma creeping on him?
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
OW's mom is so mad at her! She text ow's ex bf and told him all abôut H and ow. Problem îs the ex bf is a. Drug addict and has a screw loose.
Should I warn H about this guy as this guy will go crazy on H? Thîs whole thing is becoming like a white trash soap opera, I'm so embarassed by this situation, embarassèd to even say it all outloud H would be apalled by his behavior too if he werè still in hîs right mind. Neèd thoughts please.
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
OW's mom is so mad at her! She text ow's ex bf and told him all abôut H and ow. Problem îs the ex bf is a. Drug addict and has a screw loose.
Should I warn H about this guy as this guy will go crazy on H? Stay out of his sandbox, or the weirdo life HE is creating for himself. As long as your children are not endangered, there is no reason for you to stick your nose in this.
Your h will NOT "appreciate" the warning at all...the OW has told him about her loser ex bf, I'm sure. And the shame YOU feel, is exponentially higher for him-- and that shame will convert into resentment AT YOU...
Thîs whole thing is becoming like a white trash soap opera, I'm so embarassed by this situation, embarassèd to even say it all outloud H would be apalled by his behavior too if he werè still in hîs right mind. Neèd thoughts please.
back off, keep your helmet on and stay away from his blast zone...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I totally agree w/25years, i.e., stay out of the way and allow your h to face the consequences of his actions. It's not your job to clean up the mess he's making of his life.
Keep the focus on you and your children. That's what is important right now.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
