So you sound pretty much resigned that you did all you could do
I'm resigned but haven't locked the door. I wish it was as simple as black and white. But, yes, lots of grief.
I used to spend a lot of time trying to figure it out. I don't anymore. I find it to be more productive to work on acceptance and personal happiness "in spite of."
Our number one issue is that we have a different understanding of what M is supposed to look like, at least in life application vs. discussion. In discussion, we're scary the same. H would tell you that there is no place for lying in a M, but when the poo hits the fan, he doesn't hesitate to lie.
I had noticed in your threads reference to your father and his issues. Is your mother any help in this area? I read that she D'd your father but still loved him. It seems like she would be an awesome source of support and understanding.
