New Year, New Life (19 months)

[labug]

Just a note on maintaining a R with grandparents who aren't invested in that R.

As a kid, every Sunday evening we had to go visit my Dad's parents. My grandmother was a very unhappy woman and I felt she never really cared to see us, it was her duty. I also believe she liked her other grandchildren more because they were all of the same religion, we however were doomed because we were born outside that religion. (she told my mother this)

Anyway, it was always very uncomfortable. My grandfather usually sat in another room counting the offering from church. I'm not sure he even knew our names and I know I never had a conversation with the man. At the time I thought he was really old but he was probably not much older than I am now. I was an adult when they died, I thought I should feel something but really didn't.

Your post of this morning reminded me of all this. It takes an investment from both sides to have a R, at least that's been my experience.

My maternal grandparents made up for the lack of love from these folks.