Excellent advice. I wish I would have had this in mind when SHE CALLED me. I spoke with her regarding our daughters behavior. Everything was going well, and stupid me, I said, "would you be willing to meet me for a coffee this weekend". I asked, knowing that I would have spoke with Chuck and had a game plan in place on how to go about the friendship card that was played. I actually cringed as I said it, because of course that is pursuing. Well, things got much worse. She wanted to know exactly why I wanted to have coffee. I tried to close the conversation, but she was persistent in knowing why I wanted to see her. Then, she went into it on her own, expressing that she was not open to talking about our marriage, that she was not open to working on it, that she had told me over and over again that she was done. I honestly tried my best to shut it down, but it just blew up in my face...... I am starting to feel like I am simply destined for failure.
From this point, she sent me a couple texts, I replied as openly and honestly as I could. What other choice did I have? From here, I guess I am back at square one. So now, I detach and start over in hopes of doing better this time?????
In regards to me working on myself, I have been taking better care of myself, eating healthier, dressing better. I have accepted God into my life and been going to church. I have been much better on being less critical and more polite with everyone. I know I am just getting started. It will obviously be a life long effort of improvement, if I do it right. But, I am definitely on my way. I have a couple friends that have noticed.
