W just left me a msg that she asked for a 90 day extension. She said she wanted to think about it a bit longer and said that she wasn't able to figure out some of the things she wanted to. She also said that if I was done and just wanted to get it over with, we could do that as well.
Really? Is that why I've been working my @ss off for 2 years? To give up? Sheesh woman! Ok...vent off.
She came home a few mins later and we talked for about 10 mins. She was saying all kinds of weird things that made no sense like "You're telling me to hurry up" and "You're saying I need to change" etc etc. I said when did I say that....response "8 months ago." I said "there are some things I don't like in our relationship, but I haven't been asking you to change. I think over the last 3-4-5 months we've operated as a couple in a way I could only dream. Everything is balanced. I am not complaining at all."
She mentioned that she was working on her own issues, wasn't sure about how to get over things, and maybe she'd just end up a bitter old lady like her mom.
She had to go help her B with his kids but stopped to kiss me on the way out and said she'd call on her way home. What the flip!?
Honestly, I think she was completely caught off-guard by the whole thing. I think she's frustrated and acting out at me because of it. I don't think any of this crap she's slinging is real. There's basis for a lot of it, but it's all old news and out of context.
I went ahead and scheduled another coaching session for Monday, so that should give me a little time to see what the W is thinking. Sounds like I have 3 more months....the question is more of the same happy limbo or detachment?
I'm in the middle of the ultimate reset and they say to avoid stress....man did I pick the wrong time to start!
