"I'd still like to see you back in your own bedroom with or without H"
YOU AND ME BOTH!!
H does need to deal with his own stuff- the parking ticket for instance. And there was a time recently when he had a flat tire and ended up changing it in the rain. I do try not to nag. He even declared no dessert anymore but last night had an ice cream sandwich and a slice of cheesecake. I said nothing!!!
We each have our own growing to do. I do still feel guilty for wanting to leave, for "giving up". Even if there were no kids I would feel the guilt. Maybe I could have tried harder than I did. Maybe I wasn't a great DB'er. Etc. I have not convinced myself that I tried hard enough... But the last time I waited things out, at my job, I suffered way too long hoping things would change. Not this time. I don't see this improving so I gotta move on.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page