Oh yeah, I didn't think I needed help. I'm a funny one. It takes awhile for me to build trust, no doubt, but I do. And I share and open up. But something happens to me... I just pull back. I've consistently picked people that allow me to do that. My H was an awesome guy, did the chasing and stuff. But everyone is different at the beginning. He definitely had a selfish streak that was clear from the beginning. Ultimately, he "allowed" me to fester in my dysfunction. His fault? God no. Not what I'm saying. My dysfunction is MY problem. But, there are people who can make you better than who you are and those that don't. I don't think I ultimately wanted to be challenged.
Oh yeah... I cared the least and that was just awesome. I mean I won, didn't I??? And man, for most of our R, I cared the least (still waiting for the prize I get). BTW, that's what led to the initial downfall of my R with my H. He didn't feel loved and felt that I criticized him constantly. He felt that he couldn't do anything right. And boy, when I realized he was right, it hurt to the core. I never want to hurt anyone like that again.
So tell me CV, do you feel frustrated by your situation?