when to give up? I don't want to be one of those people hanging on forever....and if my W serves me with papers well..I think that is when I will have to give up. I won't wait any longer...maybe I need to start thinking in these terms anyway to some it may look defeatist but to me it will help me move on and GAL.
That's not giving up, it's moving on. How long it takes before you're ready to move on is up to you. For some people it's a week, others it's months, others stand for years. It's your choice and there is no shame in making that choice. Saving your marriage is a noble cause to be sure, but we have to balance that with our own personal welfare. If standing is causing us grief and making us miserable, then we have to decide how long we're willing to subject ourselves to that before moving on.
