SS, it sounds like you're working on communication and that communication has been a big stumbling block in the past. I think that's great, but just want to warn that effective communication is not something the two of you can develop on your own in my opinion. I really feel like professional help with this would put you on the path to rebuilding the R much faster. Have you checked into RetroV?
One of the difficulties in moving into piecing is switching gears, before piecing it's not advisable to seek out counseling but once in piecing counseling can be a critical component to getting the R on track.
