I'm glad that is helpful. you can find the "stop sign" technique in "Divorce Remedy" by Michele Weiner-Davis. she calls it "thought stopping". basically, when you feel that you can't get thoughts of OW out of your mind - you imagine a big red stop sign and make yourself stop. then get busy with something else, or think of something else. this is on page 205-206 of "Divorce Remedy". but - you can't do this right at the beginning. at first your emotions are too intense and this method won't work. but after some time has passed, you will find it is possible to do.
