Just another low point. I took a deep breath, regathered myself and will be moving forward. I set up my next phone coaching session with Chuck. Hopefully, he can shed some light on his advice to be "friends" with my W. I won't initiate any contact with her until then.
I did however need to contacct her this morning, regarding our D. It was done via a few text messages. I am starting to see some behavioral changes. Our D is 6 years old. This week while I had her she had 2 accidents (poopy pants), which is very out of the ordinary. She also had some very strong mood swings in a short period of time. She went from content, to absolutely kicking and screaing upset, back to being very happy all within a 30 minute time period. While she was upset, I consoled her and asked what was bothering her. She said, "I am just sad and I don't know why". I told her she could talk to me about anything and that Mommy and Daddy love her very much. Again, she said she was "sad". I asked her if it was Mommy and Daddy making her sad, and of course she said yes. That is tough on the emotions, let me tell you.
I text my W this morning to see if she is noticing anything. She said D was very well behaved, didn't eat much and did ask about Mommy and Daddy getting back together. It just crushes me. My wifes mother has been married 5 times, and she is currently working towards her own divorce. Therefore, my wife has a convoluted view towards it. She thinks it is better for children if the parents are happy. She feels that there is a trickle down effect, if the parents are happy the kids will be happy too. She feels that taking children out of a home where there is verbal conflict from time to time is better than keeping them in an otherwise stable home with two loving parents. "Kids are resilient" she says, "Daughter will be fine after divorce". I can't look at it so easily. I know there will be wounds, and I know wounds leave scars.
