I am starting to get some pressure from my family, to just divorce and move on. Everyone in my family feels I am playing the fool and this will never turn around. Not having that support is absolutely crushing me.
I was hearing the same things from family and friends and I basically shut down all talk with them on my sitch. They don't understand DBing at all, all they see is me hurting and they want it to stop. In their mind my W is causing me hurt so their obvious reaction is to get D and move on. I get all my support from here and my IC.
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On one hand I feel that my best chance of reconciling is to continue to DB.
Your best chance is to detach as much as possible. I'm struggling with it right now but we have to force ourselves to start detaching and remember it's a long process. Right now I'm being friendly distant which means being cordial but not initiating conversations and not calling or texting her. That is all she sees, on these boards I'm all over the place but I'm staying consistent at home. If we weren't living in same house I would likely be dim to dark.
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On the other hand, I feel that I should just sit my W down and have a, "lay out the facts and absolutes" conversation regarding our marriage. Basically, give her one last opportunity to even consider trying. I wouldn't be asking her to move back in or hold my hand today, just that she would be open to moving forward.
Why would you do this? You know what the answer will be, she's told you many times. Will hearing it again change your mind on DBing? If yes then I'm not sure your DBing for the right reason. Remember DBing is for you to improve yourself and help you be happy later on with or without your W.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
