You seem to be in a good place and bale to make clear decisions based on your needs. Take it slowly. No need to rush any decisions as you know so well. They will come to you with time.
Keep posting and let us know how things go.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home