La...thanks for the advice. At least for now she has chosen a counselor that wants to start off by seeing us seperately so im at least going to give it a few weeks and see how I feel. I know you can't get into it half way and expect it to work at all, i've gotta either be in or out, but the truth is I dont know right now if I want a R with my wife or not.
I think I do, if we can build one that is built the correct way on strong foundations of trust, honesty, caring etc....but I still have a part of me that says its never working out b/c we're just too far apart. Anyway, kind of some mindless ramblings, but it was good to be away from here for a while, and now its good to be back here.
I really am in a good place in my life, im very happy and am ready to move forward either with my wife or without but im willing to at least see the counselor a bit and see what he's all about before I close my mind completely.