Yes...I did acknowledge that it turned me around to see A in different light. However it messed her up and brought out her worst fears and that she had issues of her own that she would not deal with. One of the reasons I was resistant to go is that I never said I would not go but that she had issues too and it was not to be all about me. She promised she would deal with her issues but once the psychology hit her it freaked her right out...literally. She was afraid. I think this is where MWD makes points about that old type of therapy. We needed solutions based therapy. Not hashing out old issues right away. Wish I knew this stuff a long time ago. Wish she would look at SBT or Retrouvaille.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
