Just a question and I might feel differently if my sons were younger when this happened but why do you feel you have to create the R with your sons and their Grandma?
Do they like her? Do they ask to see her? She seems pretty capable, can she contact them if she wants to see them? Can she contact H if she wants to see them?
If you don't want to go with H, don't. You've been doing things you haven't wanted to do for a long time.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
