Yes Spartan, it is key. I've been teaching my S12 that it is ok to walk away when my H is berating him and calling him stupid. When he tried to do that, H got more mad and yelled "I'm not DONE with you yet." We were missing that key part. So next time S12 needs to verbalize, Dad I feel disrespected by the words you're using and I'm getting too angry to talk about this. I'll talk to you about it in an hour.

This isn't easy to teach, no one taught it to me. But you don't get to use bad relationship tools just because those around you are. You as an individual, even as a child, have a lot of power when you stand your ground about how you're going to be treated...and make it clear with respectful words.


Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.