House for sale. So Sad. Family Breaking Up (pt 2)

[FloydMan]

Thanks Spartan, AD, and Bug.
It is not so much I feel like the victim although I did feel that a year and a half ago when A came out.
Maybe a bit of a victim now in that I do feel used....more recently again as I see how she manipulated a lot of things in her favour. I don't feel so much a victim in the R itself...that was both our fault. though she blames me for all and feels her only mistake was the A. we both let it get to that point. I was lonely too and emotionally neglected. i chose other outlets. I learned a lot over 18 months about emotional connection and its vitality in a M. We both screwed that up. Her begging and pleading 18 months ago and again this spring to save the M at all costs and for a 2-3 year commitment to work on it was manipulative as she roped me back in only to pull the plug weeks later for her timing. I had a wake up call, an epiphany if you like and most of it was based on her reasoning that divorce is wrong and she will fight "as long as it takes" for this M. Weeks later she was done. I know it sounds victim like but I did all the compromising. Maybe it is one of those don't believe anything she says statements but she said this was her plan months ago. Divorce is wrong and an escape from issues but only brings more. Stats do not support happiness beyond it except in small percentages and where there is abuse etc.

Glad you folks love Floyd. My d10 is learning guitar too. Formal lessons start next month.