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Good luck today! I know you are going to do just fine.


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The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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I had a nice first day at work. I was a little suprised at my gut hurting seeing all the wedding bands on people. And it seems a lot of men happily wear their wedding bands. My X always had excuses and didn't wear one for years. Then I got him a new one a few years ago, and he wore it and seemed to try to destroy it. Seriously, it looks like he was digging cement blocks with it. So he quit wearing it after he ruined it.

But I will make up a little mantra for that and I will reframe it into something. Maybe when I see other peoples wedding bands I should think one word: NICE. And smile my yoga smile!

My new supervisor was so sweet. I worried over remembering everyones names. So she printed me roster with their photos and name and job title. I already like her!

We also got another request for a house showing tomorrow. So things keep happening. I said I wasn't going to worry about the house selling untill it had been shown 20 times. So this will be about the 10th time. I am thinking positive thoughts!

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Wendy,
Your first day sounds like it went well. I'm glad you like your new supervisor. Don't worry about a thing...you'll learn very quickly and enjoy the work and the people.

You will sell your house, but it's going to take a lot of walk thrus to do so and I like the 20 times of showing before you become concerned. You've got a ways to go.

Stay positive!


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I like your supervisor too. smile Good luck on your second day, Wendy.

My H never wore his wedding band either. Apparently, it was a danger at work. I never wore mine. I don't like wearing rings anyway, or things on my wrists. Your solution for all those wedding bands is brilliant.

Take care.


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But I will make up a little mantra for that and I will reframe it into something. Maybe when I see other peoples wedding bands I should think one word: NICE. And smile my yoga smile!


I like that!

My ex used to wear his ring, but took it off for work (surgery) and surfing. So I really didn't notice at first when he started leaving it in the medicine cabinet and not putting it back on after his morning surf session. Who knows how long that was going on while I was clueless?

When we split and I stopped wearing my ring, I had a big dent in my finger that wouldn't go away. It took the longest time, but it's gone now!

I find I don't envy people with wedding rings though - instead I find myself wondering what secrets lurk behind closed doors in THEIR marriages. Sad, huh?

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Should have gone to Cinnamon's for New Years breakfast. That's always a great pick me up.

You're bound to backslide here and there. Just keep taking care of yourself and keep little indulgences around to treat yourself. Cocoa puffs from Liliha sometimes hit the spot. Good luck on the new position.


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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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I'm happy for you on your first day at work. Work will give you things to occupy your mind and create little successes that you can celebrate.

Here's to Day 2!


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I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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This was on Buddhist Boot Camp yesterday. I found it very helpful:

Don't let your temporary struggles become your life-long identity.

We tend to assign a meaning to EVERYTHING we go through (we are meaning-making-machines). This was very important for me to learn through therapy: that I no longer had to identify or think of myself as a "child abuse victim", for example, but rather an empowered survivor (letting that experience make me stronger, not weaker).

We're the ones who put labels on our experiences, so we're the only ones who can go back and change the label on what happened.

I am who I am because of every single thing that has happened to me. We're all battling similar challenges in one way or another, and the more we realize this, the closer we would feel to one another. I am another you, and you are another me. Namaste.


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Bravo! I couldn't agree more w/your posting today!

BTW, how is work going?


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That is so true, Wendy. I have been slowly coming to that conclusion in my own life, but I put it in another way. For instance, I used to have a quote in my byline: Live your life, or it will live you. IOW, stuff happens, but don't let it define who you are.

Thanks for the reminder. I think I was starting to forget, and allowing things to overwhelm me again. I will remember that I'm in control of my life.


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EA4/04 End? Who knows?
"Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
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