Don't focus so much on what Ws are doing, instead focus on you and how you can improve your situation.
Read ad's post again, especially this part: Fact is you probably were as great a husband and dad with the tools that you had that you could be, and your marriage somehow got broken without your perceiving it. It's not to blame yourself that I mention this, it is to give you a healthy dose of perspective.
And the flip side is, your W is probably as good as she can be right now, for whatever reason. She may stay stuck, you don't have to because you are acquiring new tools.
But continuing to focus on how "bad" she is will keep you stuck in that victim mode.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
