You feel used, but you are not 100% victim in this, even if you don't know what part you played.
Your suggestion that buying your family everything and anything should have been all they needed (you'll feel like arguing this but look a lot harder at what you have said here)... And your great anger that you've been left in spite of what you bought...
Fact is you probably were as great a husband and dad with the tools that you had that you could be, and your marriage somehow got broken without your perceiving it. It's not to blame yourself that I mention this, it is to give you a healthy dose of perspective.
As long as you are 100% victim and she is 100% wrong, you will have a hard time overcoming this. If you let it drag you down and make you bitter that will be very understandable. If you let it serve as a wake up call that emotional connection is an absolute must in your future relationships and figure out how to make and nurture that, or if you can learn how to make this a healthy learning experience for your girls instead of a giant slap of fate that throws you down... well, good can come of it. I think DB suggests that while you're making good out of what you've got you have a better chance of any kind of rebuilding with your spouse than if you choose to play the victim instead. Not that it isn't COMPLETELY understandable.
I love Pink Floyd too. I'm learning how to play Wish You Were Here in my GAL guitar group.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
