Your H's behavior is definitely not okay. His actions and attitudes are characteristic of someone having an emotional affair, although at this point it might not be reciprocated. Read Sandi's 37 rules and do your very best to stick to them. Confronting him using guilt, begging, pleading, shaming, etc will not work and will only serve to make him resent you as you are seeking to keep him away from the object of his affection.
In order to rationalize what he's doing, he needs to convince himself that you deserve it in some way so don't play the part he will try to assign you. So sorry, there is really nothing you can do to control him, only you.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
