Hi everyone, I am the opposite, the LD W, who lost her H, and now finds herself no longer LD, now that H found a GF. Funnily enough, we text constantly and he is telling me about how much he loves sex and cold never go back to little or none.
I concurred with him lol. My loss, but am DBing and waiting it out. What I thought I could offer is my point of view to the HD who are getting none. So if their are questions, ask.
In my sitch. Lack of communication and trust, my control issues, kids, etc made sex seem like a chore. I never told H what I was missing or what I wanted and always lived in fear of a cuddle being misinterpreted, so I drew even further away.
H counted, five times in five years, and pretty much bad, no,intimacy sex at that. Who wants that? I didn't and by confession it was just physical release for him.
also, we had a long distance marriage Monday- Friday so I only saw him on weekends which made it easier to just pull away. Sex was a big control thing for me, just another area where I called the shots and H acquiesced. In my case the actual process of him leaving opened my eyes to the fact it was the best thing that happened to me. I got to work out a lot of issues. So in next R, they will not rear their ugly heads and if they do I will recognize them for what they are.
So, as I said, am patiently waiting it out and through texts from H he knows my position and how I feel, so it is in his court.
