Then he likes to laugh. Get funny with him. Watch TED with him. Get down and dumb with him humour wise. Work the discussion into humour. You can do it intellectually...except for TED...that is just dumb fun. Make a deal with him. 90 minutes of dumb humour and 45 minutes of chat. It's a start. Humour last though. Make him wait. Make the negotiation fun. Those times are just examples. Yes unbalanced but give it a start.

M17 yrs.
me49
xW47
d15
d11

BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out)
Therapy 9 months (tried 2)
BD2- May/12(sep)
Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50
Sold home - Aug/13
Court #2 - Dec/13
Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again
We settled.