I get it but there were two sides to the dysfunction. She had her outlet and I had mine. Mine was not secret betrayal and something she supported and pushed me to do...coaching competitive ball. She never ever expressed deep concern about our M. Never sat me down and never said we have to talk and our marriage is in trouble. Never went for help on her own. There were lots of better choices for her. As I say right until the bomb I was the greatest H and dad she always said. Even months after and she begged for me back. She never owns her issues. It was all my fault apparently.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
