Yes, I've tried to talk to him, but that isn't received well because it's conversation.
That's the thing, SS, I can totally see where your H treated you in a manner that I would find totally unacceptable. It's just not supposed to be that way. If anyone was told upfront that that was how their M was going to be, they would say, "No, thanks!" and run away. This whole concept of changing the M by changing you, when you're dealing with things like lying and verbal abuse, is something I simply don't understand. I understand detaching. I understand GAL'g. But I don't understand what you could possibly have changed that would have resulted in your H not lying. Nor would I personally want to change in a manner that would result in my finding lying in a M acceptable behavior.
