House for sale. So Sad. Family Breaking Up (pt 2)

[RegretfulLA]

She is one angry, bitter person. I had done a lot of soul searching over the past year and a half and while obviously not a perfect husband I have been faithful and honest and worked so hard for all we have. I made very good money over the years and I always thought I spoiled her and the kids. I gave in to everything. I really though i was doing everything for them and that is what she wanted. never gave me a clue ( or at least that i noticed) that things were amiss. she would even tell me i was the best husband and dad possible right up until the bomb. I am sure i expressed how i felt but i guess not in her LL. Emotionally I missed something for her obviously but really in the grander scheme of things the hatred and disdain for me is surreal and I just cannot see it justified.

My H would say the exact same thing about me.

Think hard now. Why do you think your W went off the deep end? You said it - "Emotionally I missed something for her" - she was not fulfilled emotionally. I think that's the A#1 most important thing for a woman in a R. She wants to know that you are there for her emotionally.

Now, maybe it's not your fault that you weren't - if you weren't aware, perhaps. Maybe you guys didn't have great communication to begin with, which would make those conversations difficult. But the fact is, she had an A, and that doesn't just happen. Something was really missing for her.

I know she's being bitter and awful, but if you can put yourself in her shoes for a second, you might understand a little better...