First, stop the sarcasm. This may be part of your issues or dynamics in both your M's. Maybe it feels like good intellectual sport but it is not productive and is passive-aggressive. PA is very destructive as I learned in my M. We never really fought but did that. Sarcasm is anger's bitter cousin. Second, be constructive. CV you do vent about H and that is good as that is what we need to do but do look at the other side of the coin. KD, don't poke with a stick. We are all hurting and confused. CV, you, me and all on this board. It is not an intellectual battle we should be having but rather battle with our emotions and reason to get where we need. Ideally in the end a happy life and self and R in our M's. be blunt with comments and criticisms in a productive kind way. Not passive-aggressive sarcasm.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
