Sorry to creep in on your thread here, CV. In the event that you are preparing a response to my last post.
Again, your post above follows the same pattern as when you first came here. The same patterns of avoiding and placing blame on your H and others here who are trying to help you, but not giving you what you want.
Now understand, I don't have to tell you that you have grown from this. You know you have.
Still, you would take the M back if it was handed to you on a silver platter and you are wanting answers from the likes of me and AJ and others who have posted on your thread, without doing the work.
And you ask, "but what work, I've asked that before and got no answer", and so the circular conversation that is frustrating you.
When you DO the work, you are expecting immediate results and when they are not apparent, you stop. These things must become habits in you. Not the GAL stuff, you are good at that. It is time to stop avoiding what hurts.
And what hurts is, you are unwilling to empathize with your H. That is your resentment. You need to stop resenting your H for your horrible M.
When your changes TOWARDS building a better M with your H become habit in you, your H's bad habits can not continue. Eventually, his habits will stop... and he will change...
