lis, I'm not here to answer for CV, but I do want to say that CV is close to textbook WAS.
During her time here, I can not remember a single time CV mentioned that she had anything to do with the downfall of her M. It has all been pushed on her H.
The most recent is an interesting example she uses. This is where CV is avoiding, and a large amount appears to be covert. She indicates that she was a rescuer.
What is important in that statement is not that she wants to stop rescuing her H. Rather, she then suggested he was narcissistic and suggested that he took advantage of her rescuer tendency without getting anything in return. That is covert blame.
FloydMan, just so you know, the sarcasm was part of the posts intentionally. While it came across as rude and crass, the intention was to see the resultant response.
CV indicates that she is fearless and not avoidant, yet in most of what she responds, she indicates what she does not want (moving away from) as opposed to what she wants (moving towards). Her responses are also laced with differences vs sameness.
Just those two things indicate that her natural tendency is to avoid. And that is OK. We all have our tendencies. When she hits something that is painful, she is fierce, ferocious, fearless, quite likely because she'd rather attack then deal with the fear. It chases the scary stuff away. As she did when she spoke only to portions of my posts (at her choosing), avoiding the rest and then using very sophisticated language to attempt to lock me out of further dialogue around it.
Have I profiled her? Yes. And I am doing it with complete respect because I believe in her and I believer that she can help make her M better.
She does not want to make her M better.
So I think that your question is very valid, lis. Why is CV here? I think she's here because she is getting validation that her M truly is bad, that her H is not stepping up and changing, that she is suffering, and we are empathizing with her.
