Thanks, everyone...as you can see I didn't have good relationship role modeling as a child.
BK, I forgot the best one, "you've made your bed" ogod how I hated that. I've worked really hard to keep those out of my R with my sons. I've not been perfect but I knew I could be a different parent. And they are great young men.
Thanks for the info on the article, I'm going to go read it now.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss