I don't know, Sandi. I mean I haven't seen ANY results, other than when I offered up the "friend" card. She reacted well to that. Unfortunately, I didn't realize she was looking at it differently than I was, not until you explained it. I guess the only real reaction I can get is to do something stupid like get into a conflict with her that makes her mad, other than that, not much changes in her attitude toward me.
Throughout this whole situation, her direction and her conviction hasn't changed a smidge. I've read lots and lots of threads where the WAS will waiver, withdraw, approach, etc. Mine has just stayed her course, if anything only building more steam. She is cold, she is distant and she is staying the course. I know she isn't as happy with her new life as she was originally, but she hasn't given me the slightest clue that she is second guessing her decision. Just today, a freind of her posted an inspriational (if you're not happy just walk away) sort of thing on Facebook. My wife was the very first person to "like" it. That is discouraging.
I'm just so confused on how to engage her or not engage her. I am still torn on this whole detaching thing. It is probably because I can't get into the mindset of my wife right now. I just keep thinking about how I would respond to things, and that obviously is much different. I am working on myself and making progress every day. I just can't detach from wanting my wife back. That is the part I just struggle with. I need a paint by numbers approach. I'm just not good at decifering what is and what is not working with her.
I really appreciate your input, Sandi. I always find what you say to be very insightful. Thanks again : )
