Your wife's adultery is not your fault. It is her's and only her's.
Best to keep that in mind while you heal.
Get someone in the RW to keep an eye on you. No booze, no Drugs , if you have any weapons put them away in a place you cannot get at them. Then just refocus your goals on a hour by hour basis and go completely dark. No communicating no nothing. And stay like this until you can go 2 to 3 hours without thinking about it.
Then you can reply back. That you need some space.
That is how you give yourself the gift of some peace to refuel the jets. Get the brain thinking with reason and not reaction.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
