Update:
Well, due to pressure by my 18 yr old son...not to give up, basically begged me not to give up, to go see his dad, I went. That was the only reason I did. Found out some interesting things...when I got to his hotel, ( H did not know I was coming), he was on the phone with the OW. She had called 5 minutes before I got there waking him up. ( I know because he was 1/2 alseep). I knocked on the door...and I could here him say "I don't know who is here", and " what part of 'I am not leavingmy wife and kids, do you not understand?". I came in the room, and sat while he spoke...saying I didn't know my wife was coming...I was sleeping."...and she freaked out...I want you to leave your wife, I want to be with you. I sat there, didn't say a word, remained composed...then she said." I want you to say you love me"...knowing I was there.He said.." you want me to tell you I love you...knowing Carole is here?" I said let me talk to her...nope..no can do.
He got off the phone with her...saying I was sleeping, ( I knew that to be true..as he wasn't fully awake). I said..see.. I know what her game is...she is trying to break us up...and has been all along....between you and her...you guys are succeeding. He said...I have told you all along I am not leaving you...and she knows that. I said....so she called in the middle of the night, trying to convince you to? Here is proof in the pudding...when are you going to wake up.
5 minutes later, I got an email from her..on my Iphone..saying he was moving to where she was, that she knew the kids now knew, that she would take care of them, but not me...( as if), that she felt sorry for me..stuck where we lived..etc. So, I said to him...Is there something I need to know? are you moving to Prince Rupert..He said NO! I am going to work in camp...like I said..he was pretty upset at some of the things she wrote to me. said they were all lies...and refused to talk to her...I said if you are broken up...then you need to get rid of her..plain and simple...I will not be spoken to , emailed, texted...by her in any way shape or form.