Oh one more thing, CV... I've changed gears a little bit. It's a bit of a misnomer to say that we are a WAS, I think. Given our H's complete lack of interest in resolving much of anything while they are living in their fantasy worlds... well, doesn't that STILL make us a LBS in a way? I mean it looks a little different than the typical LBS sitch but they still invest nothing in us or the M. So isn't it the same thing? And honestly by staying and by catering to their "rules," aren't we in our own way pursuing? Allowing them "cake-eating" at least in the sense that we have provided them comfort so they need not make any other decision? I mean neither of our H's are on this board. They aren't all that distressed. Why would my H be? I pay the bills, clean the house, shop, cook the meals, take care of the nonsense, bring in money. What a perfect arrangement for him. Isn't that what you are telling me your H is doing? Food for thought... something I've been thinking about the last day.
