I know that book about love languages is passed around as being a good book to read. It is a good book, don't get me wrong, but I don't happen to think it's one you should be focused on right now. For one reason, the WAW will see every one of those LL acts as you "kissing up". I remember how it would turn me off so bad when my H tried to apply some of them......even my LL, which is WOA, did not work.
When newcomers are told to read the LL book, they think they have more tools......just like you did. But the problem is...the WAW does not want you talking to her in any form of LL. That's one of those things that works very well if the couple is together, but not so well if you wait until they want a D....and then try to apply it. I just think it throws a lot of LBH's by thinking that those are tools to be used now. But that JMHO.
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How often does a WAS ever come back? Is it like 1 in 10.....1 in a 100....1 in a million? I don't know. I have no idea if mine will ever turn around. Is it good for me to keep "acting as if" it will?
No way to really know. But my question would be how do you know that your WAS isn't that 1 in a million?
I find it interesting how some men tend to want to know the answer ahead of the question. I have read several threads where the LBH wants to know that he isn't "wasting his time" at DBing. He doesn't mind doing the work as long as he can be assured the WAW will R with him. But that's not how life works, is it? Did you know your W would M you before you popped the question? Maybe so. But in this stitch, nobody can tell you what the outcome will be. And, only you can decide if you want to continue working.
I don't know what to say to get you to stop pursuing your W. If you KNOW it's going to put you back to zero and you'll have to start all over again.....and yet you persist in doing it. Don't you think that is why you have not been able to see any positive results?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Don't you think that is why you have not been able to see any positive results?
