Yes, you've been dealt a cr*p hand. You have every right to be angry. Then what?

In my earliest angriest days the thing I appreciated most was a vet pointing out to me where I could work on myself and begin building my own life.

She's going to say things that you don't like. It's called script because many of us have heard exactly the same or similar things.

I found it really helpful to read other threads here when I was in the beginning of my sitch.

Also, you still sound like your emotions are tossing you around like waves on the ocean. You need to manage them better so you don't make poor choices and shoot yourself in the foot. Exercise, take exceptional care of yourself, consider anti-depressants. See a counselor. All of these things will help you put your brain back in charge.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.