Lately I have been thinking a lot about my children and the possibility of them having another male and female influence in their lives. I know where I stand right know, and that is, that I would like to wait until they are at a point where they might understand what happened with their mother and I, or even until they can express to me that they would be okay with me dating. I know I have a ways to go before I am ready for new R, still hope it is with my w, although I don't know where my w is at.
It doesn't seem like she is persuing, or ready, for a new R either. But in the grand scheme I have no idea who she spends her free time with. I also know that it is her choice to introduce our children to someone else. I will do everything in my power to keep my children safe.
When I do get to that point of starting a R, I don't plan on introducing anyone to them until I am believe it will be a long term R. So, how do I express my concerns without it coming off as me trying to control what w does? Am I jumping the gun with this? I also don't want it to seem like a tactic. Me saying I am ready to move on, what are you going to do about it type of thing. My concern is for my children.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
